Breaking Barriers: Disability, Inclusion, and the Holiday Season

The holiday season is a time for joy, connection, and togetherness. But for many of us with disabilities, it can also bring feelings of isolation, especially when it comes to family gatherings and group events.

In a recent conversation, someone shared something that hit close to home: they felt like they weren’t invited to events anymore because of their disability. They believed their loved ones saw them as “too much work,” thinking their presence required major alterations and considerations.

It’s a sentiment I’ve heard before, and it’s one that’s deeply painful. So, let’s talk about it.

The Elephant in the Room

First, let’s address the uncomfortable truth: many people, even well-meaning ones, don’t fully understand the impact of excluding someone because of their disability. They may think they’re sparing us discomfort or stress, but in reality, exclusion often leaves us feeling unseen and undervalued.

To my peers who feel this way: you are not a burden. Your presence at the table matters, and your voice deserves to be heard.

A Message to Families and Friends

To the families and friends reading this, I encourage you to shift your perspective. Yes, there may be logistical considerations when planning events, but including your loved one with a disability is worth it. Here’s why:

1. Connection Is Priceless: The holiday season is about bringing people together. When you make the effort to include everyone, you’re reinforcing the bonds that make family and friendships so special.

2. Simple Accommodations Go a Long Way: Often, what’s needed isn’t as complicated as you might think. Ask your loved one what would make them comfortable and involve them in the planning process. Communication is key.

3. Presence Over Perfection: The event doesn’t have to be perfect. What matters most is spending quality time together and creating memories.

To My Fellow Adventurers

If you’re feeling left out this holiday season, know that your feelings are valid. It’s okay to feel hurt, but don’t let it define your worth. Here are some steps you can take:

1. Speak Up: Reach out to your family and friends. Share how you’re feeling in a compassionate way, and let them know you want to be included. Sometimes people don’t realize the impact of their actions until we open up.

2. Offer Solutions: If there are specific accommodations that would help, suggest them. This makes it easier for others to understand how they can support you.

3. Create Your Own Gatherings: If traditional events aren’t accessible, consider hosting or organizing something yourself. Invite others to join you on your terms.

The Gift of Inclusion

This holiday season, let’s all strive to foster inclusion. Whether you’re hosting a gathering or attending one, remember that the most important gift you can give is your presence and your willingness to connect.

To my readers: How have you navigated the holidays with a disability? What tips or experiences can you share? Let’s start a conversation and work together to make this season more inclusive and joyful for everyone.

Because no one should feel left out during the most wonderful time of the year.